Saturday, December 23, 2023

Family update December 2023

I ended this blog in my last post but now I've changed my mind and going to continue to do some personal posts here. My other blog cynthiachinlee.com/blog focuses only on my breast cancer, diet, and health.

This year we went on many domestic trips (Los Angeles, Maui, Las Vegas, DC) and I bragged that I had not gotten Covid. Well, brag no more. Peter and I got Covid on our Oct. 2023 trip to UCLA to participate in Bruins Family Weekend. Not unexpected since we loosened up and ate at the De Neve dining hall with hundreds of unmasked college students! And yes we were boosted and got the Novavax vaccine in September 2023

On my visit to hometown Washington, D.C. I got to help take care of these adorable baby twins (Cyan and Gabriel, sons of my niece Alex with husband Byron). My sister-in-law Eleanor Chin-Lee took the photo.

Lucky for me, I got to see my lovely daughter Vanessa several times in Maui, Mountain View (CA), and DC. She's now settling in at Guanajuato, Mexico (a few hours from her Guadalajara place which she plans to keep and will continuef to rent). Here's a Maui photo of Vanessa and “beloved” Romain Tete, her colleague and friend, who is traveling with her now. If you guessed he’s French, you’re correct.

I traveled to my hometown, Washington, DC, for the sad event of my uncle Kenneth Wong’s memorial. He would have been 80. On the positive side, I’m grateful to my extended family and welcome Harvey Cummings, my uncle’s BFF (best friend forever) to the family. Here’s a photo of Uncle Kenny and me in 2012.
I continue to work on the anti-cancer book with Mark Simon and Robert Hoffman. If you know any editors or agents of non-fiction books, introduce me! I have the happy news of my last cancer check up earlier this week. The radiologists can no longer find the tumor. Here's the post, My 1000-day Journey or Honey, I Shrunk the Tumor

Thursday, December 23, 2021

I've moved my blog

I've moved my blog to my web site. You can find my posts here:

https://www.cynthiachinlee.com/blog

Thanks for reading!

Leaves on mossy rock


Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Thoughts on being an Asian American woman writer

This is excerpted from the Women's Work as Artists and Writers blog, where you can read essays from many other women. You can buy the book "The Lemon Tree" edited by Nitza Agam with the entire essay and the works of other women writers and artists at my favorite independent bookstore in San Carlos, CA (they ship worldwide) https://shop.reachandteach.com/product/lemon-tree

Great grandma Wong, my mother Nancy Wong Chin-Lee, and the author

1934, Baltimore, MD

 

Someone was knocking on the door. 

 

Then seven years old, Nancy was folding clean diapers for her mother, but her father grabbed her arm and shoved her into the closet. Her father warned,“Get in there and be quiet!” 

 

He then calmly proceeded to open the front door and chat with the local truant officer. The officer’s eyes narrowed as he said, “We heard you have a school-age child? She should be attending school. That’s the law.” Nancy’s father invited the officer to look around the house. Only small children were playing in the backyard, all too young to go to school.

 

While Nancy should have been going to school, she was held back so she could help take care of her younger siblings. She was not allowed to attend school until her brother, a year and a half younger, was old enough to go to school. By that time, it would be useful to have her walk with him as her parents cared about educating him, but not her.

 

Nancy was my mother, a talented visual artist and a wonderful storyteller. 


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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

A life well lived, William Chin-Lee (1923 - 2016)

Eulogy for my father, William Chin-Lee

William Chin-Lee

Dec. 3, 2016 at the Chinese Community Church, 500 I St., NW, Washington, DC.

William Chin as a baby, 1923, Washington, DC


















Compared to my dad, I feel like an underachieving slouch. My friends tell me I should not feel this way. So I will put it more positively. I hope I have inherited a small fraction of my dad's talents! If you read his biography or you knew him well, you know he was an accomplished medical doctor and both a community and political leader. He was also a loving husband and father and a gentle Christian.

I'm Cynthia Chin-Lee, his youngest child, a manager at a high-tech company in California and a children's book author. My husband Peter Ching was unable to make the trip due to his health. I'd like to share some things you might know about him and how he has inspired me.
With church friends. Dad is on the far right.

Birth and Childhood

My dad was born in 1923 as William Chin with several older brothers and a sister and was then followed by many more brothers and two sisters, including Robert and Sherman Chin, Mary Lee and Elizabeth Wong, who are here today.
As a young man
My father's parents, Sing Yat Lee and Ngon Win Chin

My dad's parents Sing Yat and Ngon Win Chin immigrated to the United States in the early 1900s from Toishan county in Guangzhou province China. Though neither of his parents had much education, they were hard-working and smart and created a successful laundry in downtown DC. Along with his siblings, my dad worked in the laundry and at age 15 he had an accident when his left hand got stuck in a clamped ironing press. He got a skin graft from the skin around his stomach to his injured left hand, leaving a long horizontal scar across his stomach. To me as a child, he looked like he had a big smile on his tummy.

Education

You're in the army now
Practicing medicine in Chinatown, DC

Despite the accident, he carried on, graduating from Western High School (now Duke Ellington High School of the Arts) and was admitted to American University where he was on scholarship. For part of his scholarship, he worked in the laundry for the Athletics Dept, the same one in which participated as a football player. At American University, he rushed for a fraternity and was accepted until one brother broke the news that he couldn't be a member because he wasn't white. Later my mother told me that he met this same fraternity brother who sold suits at Sears. My dad bought a suit from him, making sure to tell the brother that he was now a physician.

When my dad was in college, World War II was in full swing and he enlisted in the Army. He spent only two years at American University because he was fast-tracked to George Washington University Medical School because of the high demand for medical doctors for the war. He graduated from Medical School in 1948, the same year that he married our mom, Nancy Wong.
William and Nancy
Mom and Dad on their wedding day

Marriage and Family

Top: Blake, Warren Christopher, William (BJ), Zach, Doug
Bottom: Dad, Vanessa, Brittany, Mom


My parents were married for over 60 years until my mom's death 3 years ago. They had a traditional marriage where he supported the family through his career and she took care of the home front. They raised 5 children:
  • Bruce, a retired medical doctor, in San Diego, California. Married to Devin.
  • My sister Sandra Hays, a retired admin, of Vancouver, WA. Married to Philip.
  • My brother, Peter, a retired engineer, of Silver Spring, married to Eleanor.
  • Our brother Warren passed away several years ago, but my sister-in-law Deede of Washington DC survives him and my nephews Warren Christopher, an Army ranger of Georgia, married to Crystal and Douglass, of DC, a localization manager, are here.

Bruce, Dad, Sandra, Mom, Warren, Cynthia (me), Peter

Mom, Cynthia (me), Peter Ching, Dad, my mother-in-law Wanda, Ron Ching

Career


My dad inspired me because he said YES to the many opportunities that came his way. He ran a thriving medical practice in DC Chinatown, a community that he loved; he helped run the family real estate business; he became medical director of the DC Police and Fire Clinic; and he was chosen the Republican candidate for Washington DC's member of Congress after quite a heated campaign, including a second run-off vote. Despite all the successes, he had his share of failures.

He lost his bid for Congress to the Democratic incumbent Walter Fauntroy. He was never able to realize his long-held dream for a Far East Development Center in Chinatown, a shopping and commercial building over the Chinatown metro stop. He also failed to revive the Diplomat National Bank, a bank created to cater to Asian American clients, when he became Chairman after a scandal that the former chairman Charles Kim was involved with South Korean interests.
Dad's campaign brochure, 1972, for non-voting delegate to Congress

For all the successes, he had disappointments, too. My dad inspired me because he was resilient. Life was not a straight shot, but it zigzagged with some successes and some setbacks. Despite the setbacks, my dad consistently said YES to the chances he was given.

Another milestone in our lives was when my father and mother changed our last name from “Chin” to “Chin-Lee” in the 1960s. This was at the request of my grandfather Sing Yat, who had come to the US with the paper name “Chin.” For those of you not familiar with immigration history, in 1882 the US Congress passed the Chinese Exclusion act, which was called one of the “most significant restrictions to free immigration in US history.” That law prohibited the immigration of Chinese laborers for 60 years. To get around that racially-motivated law, my grandfather bought the paper name of a Mr. Chin and entered the country as said Mr. Chin, later bringing over my grandmother as Mrs. Chin. They lived their lives in the US, another 6 to 8 decades as the Chins. Having been born in the US, my father was automatically a US citizen as were all of us his children. My parents legally filed papers to become Chin-Lee, preserving our paper name and our true clan name for posterity.

Top: Doug, Zach, Kailyn, Peter Chin-Lee, Alex, Blake, Brittany, William (BJ), Michelle, Peter Hays
Bottom: Warren Christopher with Kai, Logan, Dad

A Family Man


My father inspired me because he was a family man who cared a great deal for extended family. A gentle soul, he loved playing with his grandkids. He particularly loved babies and I remember how he willingly took care of both my children, Vanessa and Joshua, when they were babies, rocking them and cuddling them and giving them a bottle. He was not shy about bribing them either, often carrying lollipops in his shirt pocket.
Dad, Vanessa holding Joshua, Mom

In his last years, my sister-in-law Eleanor and my brother Peter in Silver Spring remodeled their family room as a bedroom for him. He liked to watch the squirrels outside on their deck finding the nuts that my brother Peter would leave for them.
Aunt Liz, Dad, Aunt Mary
I'd like to thank all of you for taking time out of your busy lives to remember my father. You are also invited to the other events that my brother Bruce will announce.

Before I end, I'd like to recognize my sister-in-law and brother, Eleanor and Peter especially. They have been the major caregivers for both my mother and father in these last few years. While all of my extended family have contributed to their care, Eleanor and Peter have borne the lion's share of work, scheduling his fantastic caregivers, like Irene Mandu and Namukale Simyembe; paying bills, filing their taxes, engaging with hospice and medical doctors and dentists and lawyers. Thank you, El and Peter, for your tender loving care of Mom and Dad. May we learn from the your caring example.

Finally, thanks, Dad, for the example of your life.
Cynthia (me), Dad, Vanessa

William Chin-Lee Biography

William Chin-Lee (April 22, 1923 – November 12, 2016), the son of the late Sing Yat Lee and Lee Ngon Win Chin, was born and raised in Washington, DC. He was the oldest child of his mother and had many brothers and sisters. His brothers, Victor Lee, Henry Chin, Bill Q. Hong, James Chin, Carl Chin, and Edmund Chin, passed away before him. He is survived by siblings Robert Chin (Helen Wong), Sherman Chin (Donna Matula), Mary Lee (the late Fatt M. Lee), and Elizabeth Wong (Thomas Wong).

He grew up in a neighborhood not far from the White House, swam in the Potomac and went fishing in the tidal basin. He worked in the family laundry. William attended church at the Chinese Community Church in Washington, D.C., and attended Bible study regularly.

During World War II, William studied at American University and while a sophomore in college he joined the Army. He served in the Army and was admitted to George Washington University Medical School after sophomore year in college because of the high demand for medical doctors. He graduated from George Washington University Medical School in 1948, the same year that he married the late Nancy Wong at the Church of the Epiphany. William also served in the US Air Force during the Korean War in upstate New York.

William and Nancy raised five children; William Bruce, M.D. (Devin Hom), Sandra Louise (Philip Hays), Warren Douglass (survived by Deede Chan), Peter Edward (Eleanor Lee) and Cynthia Denise (Peter Ching). With Nancy managing the domestic front, William started a successful internal medicine practice in DC Chinatown. They also loved babysitting and visiting with their 12 grandchildren: Warren Christopher (Crystal Walton); Zachary Hays, Ph.D. (Rachael Rogers); Will; Peter Hays; Blake, M.D. (Gina Nam); Douglass; Brittany (Alex Skinner); Vanessa Pan; Alexandra (Byron Ballard-Lyles); Michael; Michelle; and Joshua Ching. William was blessed by three great- grandchildren: Logan and Kai Chin-Lee and Kailyn Hays.

In addition to his private practice, William served at the DC Police and Fire Clinic for 20 years, retiring as chief medical director. He held many leadership positions in the community, including:
  • President of the Chinese Benevolent Association
  • President of Chi-Am Lion's Club
  • President of the Lee Family Credit Union
  • Federal City College Board member
  • Member of the Urban League
  • Executive Council of the National Chinese Welfare Council member
  • Advisory Co-Chair of the Chinese Culture and Education Center
  • Chairman of the YMCA Camp Lichtman Board
  • Education Committee of the National Republican Heritage Groups Council member
  • Trustee of the Chinese Community Church

Active in politics as well, he won the Republican nomination for non-voting delegate to Congress in 1972, but lost to the Democratic candidate.

He helped many other initiatives, including the founding of Diplomat National Bank, the Wah Luck House senior housing development, the Organization of Chinese Americans, and several other projects, including helping to manage the family real estate business, Chin, Inc., which later acquired the Best Western Downtown Hotel.

Monday, January 18, 2016

Exiting x86 at Sun Oracle

Cyndi displays the plaque
I can have my cake and eat it too since I get to stay at Oracle!
Thanks to all of my coworkers at Sun Oracle for the last 12 years! I had a wonderful send-off on Friday, Jan. 15, 2016 at a spacious conference room at the historic Oracle Santa Clara campus. Special thanks to those who organized the event: Denise O'Dell, Christopher P. Johnson, and Ralph Woodley.

I was delighted to have so many well-wishers in the room. When I heard that 1740 was reserved for the event, I told Denise that I wasn't sure we would need to have such a large room, but she said it was all reserved and "that's that." We had scrumptious mocha cake from Bon Appetit, a large and enthusiastic crowd, and even our  executive attendance! At one point, my senior VP, the humble Ali Alasti, embarrassed me by getting on his knees and pretending to beg me not to leave. (Wish someone had taken a photo of that!)

Cyndi, Kevin Wiramihardja, Mark Stanton
Ralph presented me with a special plaque that was custom engraved for my years of service. They also presented me with a blue phalaenopsis orchid with a card that said they'll be blue without me.

Cards and custom chocolates decorated with service labels
Denise Silverman from the Human Factors, User-Centered Design group gave me a customized box of chocolates, decorated with x86 service label snips! Very clever.

I remarked that I joined the Solaris group as an employee in 2003. I also had at least three or more previous stints as a contractor at Sun Microsystems as early as 1984 when the hot start-up was headquartered in Mountain View. I transferred to NSG (what did that stand for? network systems group, I think) in 2005 after the product I documented, Sun Management Center, was transferred to India.
Ralph Woodley, Cyndi, Mark McGothigan 

Fortunate for me I had met George Salem (now at Google) at a Harvard alum event and had told him that I wanted to look for a job as a program manager. He told me that Ada Chiang had some openings for program managers so I applied. But Ada took a look at my resume and saw "tech pubs" all over it and said she needed a tech pubs manager/writer and wanted me to apply as a writer with the understanding that I would most likely become the manager.

I interviewed with seven people in NSG and I recall clearly that six of the seven said thumbs up and one person said NO. I can guess who the NO came from. That person was laid off soon thereafter so I got my just desserts!?

I had many highlights over my ten years in NSG, now called x86, including two trips to the Shanghai engineering office which Ada opened. I begged her to send me and she approved after I justified my trip with many training sessions for the engineers, including leadership training from Toastmasters. So off I went in 2008 and again in 2013.

My other supportive x86 managers included Thomas Yu and Christopher P. Johnson. Chris was especially encouraging when I initiated a video and animation program. Over the years and not without plenty of ups and downs, my stellar team (Ralph Woodley and Ray Angelo, in particular) created dozens of animations and videos of technical procedures and concepts.

In addition to my work projects, I also cherish the fun and excitement of organizing the Oracle contingent to the SF Pride Parade with Sujesh Sundaram, Vincent Coville, Cathy Melior Benoit and others.


Here are groups at Santa Clara are dear to my heart (apologies as I know I've missed people):

Sue Young, Pam Parrish, Nancy Moreno, Sujesh Sundaram, Neng Xue
  • Speakeasy@Sun Toastmasters Club (formerly in the Menlo Park Sun campus) with many of the members present like Cornelia Koch-Stoschek, Salomon Chavez, Neng Xue, Sujesh, Becky Xu, Sumit Jyoti
  • Oracle Women's Leadership (OWL) with Nancy Moreno, Joy Lee, Sue Young, Pam Parrish, Jeewika Ranaweera, Beth Beasley. We put on some fantastic events including International Day of the Girl, Women's right to vote, mentor circles, and many more.
  • Pubs and usability people: Shripad Patki, Anathea Lolen, Barb Jugo, Anne Juan, Alta Elstad, Mike Bechler, Andrea Marra, Sharon Veach, kristin Travis, Ralph Woodley, Mark McGothigan
  • Engineers and managers: Paul Ryan, Prafull Singhal, Albert Lau, Tamra Smith-Wasel, Dan Benefiel, Todd Creamer, Chad Amsler, Jim Vasquez, Yi Cai, Tony Huang, Obehi Ukpebor, Ali Vahedi, Helen Liu
Thanks to all of you who came and those who sent me your wishes. I appreciate your kindness, cards, and gifts. One executive wrote to me:

I can easily say you have done far more for our x86 team and I than I have ever done for you. I appreciate all of our years together. I wish you the very very best. I know you are very smart, passionate and caring. It is a hard combination to come by. Any team would be lucky to have you.
Santa Clara campus by Ray Shr

Sunday, November 1, 2015

You're invited to the movies (Nov. 2015)

I just looked at when I last posted! December of 2014. That's pretty sad.

Or maybe not. Life has been a blur with work, school, some travel, some medical challenges and some highlights, too.

I was inspired to write because there are two things coming up that I wanted to share:

Operation Marriage, the short film, will be playing at the
San Diego Asian Film Festival on Saturday, Nov. 7, at 7:35 pm.

Here's a link to the shorts program it's in:
Shorts program (Mommy Queerest)

I'll be attending and will be in the post-screening Question and Answer.

The San Francisco Peninsula Alumnae Chapter (SFPA) is hosting a screening of the internationally award winning film "I Am A Girl" on Monday, November 9th at 7pm in Menlo Park.

The San Francisco Peninsula Alumnae Chapter (SFPA) has been serving the greater San Francisco Peninsula area for over 35 years. Located in the heart of the Silicon Valley, SFPA is strategically focused on deeply impacting our communities through service, programs and partnerships.

I'll be on the post-screening panel. My Oracle co-worker, Sharonda Faison, is helping with this event and that's how I got word of it.

WhenMon, November 09, 2015 at 07:00 pm
Where: Guild Theatre, 949 El Camino. Menlo Park, CA
Cost: $10
Watch the amazing trailer: www.iamagirl.com.au



Tuesday, December 23, 2014

See and share "Operation Marriage"

Here's a gift to you from everyone who made Operation Marriage the movie possible:

Quentin Lee, director
Alan Reade, producer
Reach and Teach, Derrick Kikuchi and Craig Wiesner, publishers
Lea Lyon, illustrator
all of our generous donors and supporters

To see the film (about 10 minutes), go to:

operationmarriagemovie.org

Click the video (and enlarge if you like). And share it with your friends, family, and enemies...we want it to go viral.